January 2014 archive


Fellowship is one of those words that’s really only spoken by Lord-of-the-Rings-people, academics, or church-people. And while I fall into the latter category, I’m typically not big on churchy words. I’ve always thought it strange when people start to explain their spiritual life with a separate vernacular from the way they talk in every day life. You with me?

I feel that way and yet here’s a whole post on fellowship because last night I had an exceptional fellowship experience. As I’ve been turning it over in my mind today, I’ve come to realize how important it was. Just over 20 women from Belle Meade United Methodist Church met at my house last night to share wine, appetizers and conversation. We’re mostly in our 30’s and 40’s and in different stages of life and relationship. This group is gorgeous, successful, hilarious, cool and BUSY … so we meet every other month, on a Friday night, with this same format. 

The conversation part of the format includes a simple discussion topic, shared in advance but requiring no preparation. This discussion topic is what elevates our evening beyond simply a fun gathering of friends to fellowship. Last night’s topic was this:

How do you see God in your life?

Pretty simple, right? But when is the last time you asked someone a question like that? For me, it’s pretty much never. And sadly this never encompasses conversations with my closest friends, family, child and even husband. And let’s be honest, when’s the last time you asked yourself that question. Yeah … I know.

That’s CRAZY.

Just how crazy this is was underscored for me last night by my oldest friend, Eleanor. Eleanor and I have known each other for going on 27 or so years and have been best friends for the majority of that time. It’s insane and beautiful and we are lucky ducks to have each other. Eleanor has only very recently started attending church again. Last night she talked about the fact that our evening of fellowship was one of the only real meaningful adult conversations she can remember having in a long, long time. I know how she feels! And during that long, long time, she and I have had MANY conversations … some important but most about kids, clothes, gossip, restaurants and such. But last night, 2 very old friends who know each other very well, got to hear how the other sees God. It was so powerful that the conversation continued the next day.

That’s also CRAZY. Crazy awesome.

The evening was filled with beautiful, messy, hilarious, tragic, and honest stories of ways large and small that God is revealed in our lives. This group of 20 women related to each other; we learned from each other; we gave each other new ideas for ways to look for God; we made each other laugh; and we gave lots of hugs to each other as finally we made our way back home. This particular breed of interaction with others is incredibly important to the life of a Christian. It’s why church means something. Fellowship is unique and transformative.

Hmmmm … unique and transformative … I suppose it does deserve a churchy word to describe it, doesn’t it? Drat.


We’ve Got a Hankering for a Playroom

Plastic Toys Playroom

We’re classic new parents. Here’s the evolution of our thinking on the toy situation:

During our pregnancy:
“She’ll have mostly books and classic wooden toys so she can use her imagination and not be so susceptible to ADD like other kids. We’ll tell our families to use restraint with purchases so she’s not spoiled and our house isn’t over-run with plastic. Oh, and no TV whatsoever until she’s 2. La-de-da.”

6 months into parenthood:
“Let’s just take the coffee table out of our den altogether so she has some room to crawl and clear these shelves under the TV for her toys. Did you see how interested she was in that plastic, singing ball popper when we were walking through Target the other day? Yeah, well she really loves her Melissa & Doug wooden grasping giraffe too so we’re cool. I know we said no TV but she’s not really watching it so it’s no big deal to have it on, you know, just at night.”

8 months into parenthood:
“Hey honey, that V-Tech singing, light-up, rolling, uber-plastic toy suitcase that we’ve had our eye on is on sale on Amazon so I ordered it today along with a huge singing, light-up, rolling, uber-plastic walker. Yeah I can try to pare down the toys in the den a little so the shelves aren’t overflowing anymore. Oh did I tell you that Clara watched 45 minutes of Turbo while laying on the couch with me the other day? It was so stinking fun and I’m so proud of her attention span!”

13 months into parenthood:
“She would go bonkers for a ball pit, don’t you think? And she’ll be coloring in just a few months. Man I really wish she had a table on an easel or something so she can get creative. Or even a tent to read in! Yeah honey I can pare down the toys in the den again … they really are overflowing the shelves, you are right. I keep finding the meats and breads from her play kitchen under the damn couch. Speaking of the play kitchen, could you scoot it over a little bit so the remote can reach the cable box?”

Ergo begins the playroom planning fest ergo HOURS spent on Pinterest. We’re thinking of converting our downstairs guest bedroom but retaining the functionality with a built-in daybed. We’re doing this the DIY route so you’ll get to follow along on the blog.

Here’s a sneakity peek of what we are thinking.

Follow Julia Perry’s board Playroom on Pinterest.

Anybody have any advice for playroom organization?


Darling Brand You Must Get To Know: Feather Baby

Feather Baby Kimono Hoody Jacket

How cute is my girl in her Feather Baby Kimono Hoody jacket? There are even little bear ears sewn into the hood. 2 grown women have told me they would wear this! HA!

Feather Baby’s not sponsoring this post or paying me in any way. I just believe this is an exceptional baby clothes brand and you should know about it. Look for it in stores, buy it online … it’s great stuff!


  • The styles are so adorable – seriously some of my very favorite of Clara’s wardrobe.
  • The quality of the clothing is readily apparent from the moment you first run it through the wash and slide in on your baby’s fat arms.
  • Everything is 100% organic cotton, sourced from Peru, and certified FairTrade.
  • Prices are appropriately high but their sales are really good and fairly frequent.
  • I recently had to make a size exchange and their staff was courteous and helpful.

Will’s step-mother has gifted us several items from the line. The below dress was our pick for Clara’s one-year photo shoot because the smocked style is classic enough to stand the test of time but the print is fresh and modern.

Feather Baby Handsmock Dress in Pink Garden

Feather Baby Handsmock Dress in Pink Garden, $78 original price on sale for $68.

They have a store in Atlanta that I am dying to check out next time I’m there but you can also shop online or find local boutiques near you that carry the line.

Feel like oggilng some squishable babies in painfully cute clothes just for the hey of it? Here’s the spot.

Feather Baby has announced a new toddler line called Frisk that I plan on getting to know, too! They launched in Gilt.com in August. Fancy!




Clara Got Mail from Dolly Parton Today

Yes she did! And your kid can too.

Do you know about Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library? It’s an awesome program. Your kid can receive a FREE, age-appropriate book, addressed right to them, every month from birth to age 5. Amazing, right?

This is Clara’s library of free books so far.

Imagination Library Books

Any kid can qualify, regardless of their economic status, as long as there is a local organization funding the program. So here in Nashville, the United Way fulfills the books and administers the program. You can check to see if there’s local support for Imagination Library where you live here.

I know you are thinking that these books can’t really be cool. And of course some are better than others … but overall you can count me impressed. So you can get a feel for what you can expect, I’ve included Amazon links to the 11 books we’ve received so far below.


In collecting these links, I noticed that almost all of these books are at least $10. That’s nearly $100 worth of free books (in just one year!) to spark Clara’s imagination, increase her verbal skills, and delight her parents when she toddles over carrying the latest one for us to read to her. Dolly will have sent Clara 60 books by the time she turns 5. According to the website, nearly 700,000 kids are registered for the program in the US alone. That is a boat load of books. Go, Dolly!

Dolly Parton

Our girl Ms. Parton is from right here in Tennessee, you know. She grew up in the mountains of East Tennessee, quite near to where my grandparents lived for most of their life. It’s beautiful country but poor in places. Dolly started this program in her home county to support literacy and a love for reading, imagination and creativity. Now it has expanded to multiple countries and hundreds of thousands of kids. It’s such a simple thing, providing free books for kids, but so effective and just plain exciting. It won’t be long before Clara starts looking for those books in the mail. Imagine how pumped she’ll be on days they arrive! It’s exciting for me too! Will and I are cultivating a whole new appreciation for children’s books (good gravy they can bring such smiles), in large part thanks to this program.

Check to see if Imagination Library is available where you live today!



Snapshots of My Heart, Taken When I’m Not There

Clara and The General

This touching photo of Clara relaxing with our 19-year-old pug “The General” appeared on the private Facebook group we use to share photos with family today. It made me smile. Then it made me wince. This is the life of a working mom sometimes, when the most touching moment you experience of your child all day is relayed by your nanny’s iPhone camera. I was not there to see it for myself.

I thought about this photo on my ride home for a long time today. I had left the office at 5:15, proud of myself for keeping my commitment to myself and our nanny Kayla to be home at a certain hour (my husband Will travels for work constantly so Kayla is at the mercy of my sometimes chaotic work schedule). Then cursed traffic struck and the commute I had thought would take 20 minutes took over 40. As I watched the minutes tick by on my dashboard clock, I thought about the fact that I would get less than 1 hour with my daughter before bedtime once I arrived home. Less than 1 hour!

In this photo she looks so safe and happy, content to study her block and babble to her old and sleepy dog. She’s got considerable dog hair on her leggings, evidence of an afternoon of productive, messy play in our hairy den. We work hard and have had some good luck and these things have contributed to our ability to hire a nanny that makes her feel safe and happy. I’m so grateful for this and the fact that Kayla takes the time to photograph Clara for us.

When I finally conquered the traffic and walked through the door tonight, Clara started to squeal from the other room and quickly toddled into the kitchen to put her arms in the air and reach for a hug. This must be what heaven feels like, right?! As Kayla put on her coat and gathered her keys, Clara reached for a goodbye snuggle from her before returning to my arms. Clara loves her “La-La” … how wonderful is that?

On days like today I can’t help but wonder what it would feel like to be a stay-at-home mom. Right now I am fulfilled by my work. I love developing my team. I’m exhilarated by the start of a new marketing assignment. I’m challenged by my boss to run a financially healthy account for our company. My clients, my colleagues and my company are truly terrific. If I subtracted that from my life and added in new discoveries in fine motor and language, budding friendships, counting and reading, trying new foods, dancing and laughter, tears and tantrums, and countless trips to the zoo, library, museum, park and potty, would something seem to be missing? Or would I miss work at all? Would I wince when former colleagues shared stories of new clients won-over or award-winning campaigns launched when I wasn’t there? I honestly don’t know.

My work is fulfilling and not to mention a really good living. But motherhood is joy. Today, thanks to some great people in my life, I get to have it all. The balance may not always be what I want. Between 9 and 5, I may have to settle for nothing but snapshots of the thing I care about most. But the truth is, right now, the blessings in my life knock me flat on my ass if I think about them long enough. I’m content – really, truly content. And lucky. And grateful to God.



Roux-La-La … Gumbo!

It’s still cold here in Nashville. So we’re still eating soups and stews … and probably will be until May! You might start to think this is a soup and stew blog. Promise it’s more!

Seafood Gumbo

Right behind French Onion Soup is Seafood Gumbo on my list of favorite warm-up, (almost)-one-pot dinners. Seafood Gumbo has the added benefit of being a little bit spicy which helps with the warming quality. Will’s is delicious. It’s seriously as good as any gumbo I’ve had in any restaurant anywhere.

He’s got a couple of tricks up his sleeve. One trick (and this is the one that adds a second pot into the mix) is pan-frying the okra before dropping it into your gumbo. This trick significantly reduces the slimy factor that many people don’t care for but it’s totally optional. I, for one, like okra slime!

The other trick is in the roux. Lots of folks shy away from making a roux because they’ve unknowingly burnt the roux in the past and the resulting flavor is, in a word, HORRIBLE. Luckily, avoiding horrible with a roux is easy. Just make sure you don’t have the heat up too high (medium is good) and that you stir it non-stop.

We love this recipe so much that Will makes up a big batch of it and withholds the shrimp. Then we’ll bag up individual serving sizes and toss them in the freezer. When we’re in a gumbo mood, he just pulls out a couple of frozen servings, some frozen shrimp and sometimes he makes up a pot of rice. Dinner’s on the table in no time.

Below is Will’s secret recipe. Roux-la-la!

Will's Spectacular Seafood Gumbo
Shrimp and sausage gumbo with slime-free okra. Great served over rice or nix the rice for a low-carb option.
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  1. 4 Tbsp canola oil
  2. 4 Tbsp flour
  3. 3 cups okra, diced
  4. olive oil
  5. 2 medium white onions, diced
  6. 1 green bell pepper, diced
  7. 1 jalapeño, minced
  8. 8 cloves garlic, minced
  9. 16 oz. andouille sausage, cut into 1/2 inch cubes
  10. 2 whole tomatoes, peeled and seeded or 1 can of diced tomatoes
  11. 1 tsp cayenne pepper
  12. 1 tsp garlic salt
  13. 1 tsp onion powder
  14. 1 tsp black pepper
  15. 1 tsp smoked paprika (regular paprika ok)
  16. 6 cups chicken stock
  17. 1 lb. peeled, deveined and thawed shrimp
  18. Salt
  19. Long-grain rice (optional)
  1. Cut your okra into 1/2 inch pieces. Dust the okra in salted flour.
  2. Put a Tbsp of olive oil in a non-stick pan and heat over medium heat. Drop one okra in the heat. If it sizzles, the oil is hot enough.
  3. Brown the okra in the non-stick pan in single-layer batches. Transfer to a paper towel to drain excess oil. Add another Tbsp of olive oil for the next batch.
  4. Next, combine the canola oil and the flour in a 12-quart cast iron dutch oven. Cook over medium heat until blonde, stirring constantly.
  5. Add onions, bell pepper and jalapeno. Add a tsp of salt. Sweat over medium heat until onions turn translucent, stirring constantly.
  6. Add the cayenne pepper, garlic salt, onion powder, black pepper, and paprika and stir.
  7. Add the garlic and cook for another 1-2 minutes, stirring constantly.
  8. Add the andouille sausage, and cook for another 1-2 minutes, stirring constantly. Your roux mixture should be light brown at this point.
  9. Add the tomatoes, and cook for another 1-2 minutes, stirring constantly.
  10. Turn the heat up to medium-high. Add chicken stock, salt and other seasonings to taste. Bring this to a boil.
  11. Add the fried okra to the dutch oven.
  12. Add the shrimp. Put the lid on the pot and turn off the heat. Let sit for 5 minutes or until the shrimp are done. It's ok to peek early!
  13. Serve straight or over long-grain rice.
  1. If your gumbo is too thin, mix 1 Tbsp of flour, 2 Tbsp of water and a pinch of salt in a separate dish and then stir into to the boiling soup.
  2. If your gumbo is too thick, add chicken stock and salt.
  3. The seasoning mixture in this recipe can also be replaced with Tony Chachere's Famous Creole Seasoning. As always, taste your gumbo to insure balanced seasoning!
Bless Her Hearth http://www.blessherhearth.com/

Let Them Eat Banana Cake … for Breakfast

Attention people of the Interwebs. Last night, I made a bunt cake. And for the very first time EVER in the history of my ownership of this bunt cake pan, it did not stick! We’re talking 5 years, folks. Hallelujah! Isn’t she beautiful?

Banana Breakfast Cake

This recipe was given to me at one of my bridal showers by a member of my church. I love the entire set of recipes I got that day. There’s something so comforting and wonderful about being given a time-tested and family favorite recipe, handwritten on a cute card. In fact, hand-written recipes should be given as gifts more often. While I love looking for something new to make on Pinterest as much as the next person, there’s a texture and history to a recipe shared in a more traditional way that shouldn’t be lost.

There are lots of lovely things about this cake but one thing I really love is that when you notice you have a few over-ripe bananas, you probably have everything else you need to make it. It’s a nice alternative to regular old banana bread in that way. This is exactly what happened when I decided to make it last night and bring it to my Sunday School class this morning. 

The one thing I didn’t have in the fridge was buttermilk. But thanks to my trusty friend Google, I found out that letting lemon juice and whole, lowfat or nonfat milk sit for a few minutes produces the same results as buttermilk. This cake was proof positive that it works! I also found another darling blog to follow in the process (although it seems like I’m the last person on the planet to hear about JoytheBaker.com).

Now go forth and eat cake!

Banana Breakfast Cake
Serves 16
A lovely, banana-y cake that is equally good sliced and toasted for breakfast.
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Cook Time
1 hr
Cook Time
1 hr
  1. 1 3/4 cups sugar
  2. 2/3 cup butter, softened
  3. 3 ripe bananas, mashed
  4. 2 eggs
  5. 1 tsp vanilla
  6. 3 cups flour
  7. 1 1/3 cup buttermilk
  8. 2 1/2 tsp baking powder
  9. 1 tsp baking soda
  10. 3/4 tsp salt
  11. 1 cup dried cranberries (or cherries, optional)
  12. 1 cup chopped pecans (optional)
  1. Preheat oven to 325.
  2. Grease/flour a 10-12 cup Bundt pan.
  3. In a large bowl, mix sugar, butter, bananas, eggs and vanilla until very lift and fluffy.
  4. Add all remaining ingredients and mix well.
  5. Spoon batter into prepared pan.
  6. Bake at 325. Check the cake at 60 minutes. It's ready when a toothpick inserted in the center coms out clean.
  7. Cool 10 minutes.
  8. Remove from pan and cool completely on wire rack.
  9. Dust with powdered sugar if desired.
  1. This cake freezes exceptionally well!
Bless Her Hearth http://www.blessherhearth.com/

Cold Night? Warm French Onion Soup. BOOM.

When the weather turns cold, bring this girl a soup, stew, chowder, bisque or gumbo pronto. Will knows this and is a master at all of the above. Tonight was French Onion Soup. Lordy it’s good.

French Onion Soup

French Onion is one of my very favorite soups. It’s warm, satisfying and simple. With just a few ingredients and a little elbow grease, you can have a delicious homemade French Onion soup all yourself. The below recipe was created by Will after tasting a delicious French Onion soup on our trip to Paris 2 years ago. We went back to the restaurant twice so he could memorize the flavors and I’ve got to say, I think he nailed it.

Le Castiglione Restaurant, Paris


Will’s cooking has little to do with measuring and lots to do with seasoning to taste so don’t be afraid to follow his lead and do the same. Bon appétit!

Will's French Onion Soup
A delicious, traditional French Onion soup requiring just a few quality ingredients.
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  1. 2 lbs. sweet onions
  2. 1 red onion
  3. 6 cloves garlic, minced
  4. 6 stems fresh thyme
  5. 1 cup quality red wine
  6. 6 cups of beef stock
  7. toasted crusty bread
  8. gruyere cheese, cubed
  1. Cube up some gruyere cheese and bread in roughly 1/2 inch square pieces. Put 6 cubes of gruyere and 6 cubes of toasted bread in the bottom of each oven-safe bowl.
  2. Cut onions in thin strips (a mandolin helps but isn't necessary).
  3. Put 2 tablespoons of olive oil and a few pinches of salt in the bottom of a dutch oven. Saute all of the onions for about 15 minutes.
  4. Add the thyme and the garlic and continue to saute for another 15 minutes until onions start to turn brown. Do not let them fully caramelize.
  5. Add the wine and the beef stock. Reduce heat. Cover and simmer for 20 minutes.
  6. Ladle the soup mixture over the gruyere and toast in the oven-safe bowls.
  7. Cut toast pieces to fit each bowl, cover with more gruyere.
  8. Place on a cookie sheet and bake at 375 for 20-25 minutes or until melted and bubbly.
Bless Her Hearth http://www.blessherhearth.com/

Ringing in the New Year with Patient 0

Meet patient 0, our little contagion.


This poor little gal got the stomach bug on the 26th. We thought she was over it. Alas, she was not. And unbeknownst to us, she took out our entire childcare team (my folks + our nanny and her husband) with brief but impactful visits on the 29th. We were therefore left without a babysitter for New Year’s Eve and unable to invite others over lest they should come down with what might as well be the plague. Just awful!

So what did we do? The Mister spent some time in the kitchen with this guy.


I whipped up a few party crowns to add to the festive mood.

Crafting Crowns

We took some family photos with the tripod/timer and scored some of the best shots of the three of us from the ENTIRE year. Will thinks they are dorky and refuses to be represented online with these photos so you only get 2/3 of the Perrys here on the blog. However, copies are headed to family as belated Christmas gifts and they will be thrilled. Score.

Clara and Julia

After we put the little gal to bed, Will and I had a romantic dinner and then headed to the couch for a screening of The Family. The movie might have been the low-light of the night (well, except maybe for Ryan Seacrest and Jenny McCarthy acting like teenagers in Times Square – so lame).

Otherwise … our New Year’s celebration was PERFECTION.

New Year's Dinner


Happy 2014!